French women dating for bread
We are constantly bombarded with products that will make us 'better,' and it's kind of oppressive, because there's the underlying idea of 'you're not okay, you could always be doing better.' They don't have that either, so that also takes the edge off pressure that you have to be someone you're not."French women think in nuances, degrees of passion, shades of gray. Not at all.'"f they don't hear back from a guy, they're not going to be constantly texting him and so forth.
They don't think in the absolutes of total love and utter rejection. If they made it clear to a guy they're into him, that's it—it ends there.
It's just that in France, they still consider that men and women are different and have different needs and desires.""I noticed this when I came back from France (to live in the States). They prefer men to be in the picture, not out of it.
I would hang out with young moms, and there would be a lot of commiserating about men.
was met with blank stares when it attempted to repeat its American success on French shores).
To gain further insight into the phenomenon that is French romance, and the power women seem to exercise within it, we called author Debra Ollivier for a little heart-to-heart on the subject.
And the author went to French bookstores and spoke to French women and she was like, 'Why don't you like my book? All the obsessing and processing over a guy who's not right for you and not into you is not going to change anything except for making you more upset.
It's much better to cultivate a sense of who you are, and a sense of strength and freedom.""The French have a long history of this—they don't believe in happily ever after and all that nonsense.In fact, if you are liked by everyone and you like everyone, there’s something wrong with you. So, not having the pressure to be liked, and to everyone else, that feeds a sense of self-possession as you're growing up.It also feeds the sense of not giving a sh*t, because French women don't care if you don't like them, whether you're a girlfriend or you're a guy they're going on a 'date' with. It's not until women get to be 40 or 50 that they're like, 'I don't give a damn,' and then they're really free to be eccentric and totally authentic and do what they want. They don't have a culture of self-help the way we do.The American—who spent a dozen years in France and met and married her (French) husband there—blew our minds.Here’s what she told us about French women and their interactions with men, including some tips on changing our very mind-sets about love, marriage and all the rest.There are a lot of rules in our culture, way more than in French culture, "The French are more interested in the experience of the relationship than the final result. We know how to make a living, they know how to have a life.Even if an experience with a man doesn't lead to marriage, or he doesn't end up being your boyfriend, it doesn't diminish whatever emotional pleasure or currency you got from being with that person. We need to learn more about having a life.""I don't want this to seem like I'm being categorical about American women, but they generally expect men to be their best friend and their lover and their husband and to talk to them like their girlfriends do.They don't pick flowers and ponder love with 'He loves me, he loves me not.' Rather they say, 'He loves me a little. If the guy doesn't pick up the baton and run with it, French women are done with him.They're not going to belabor it, harbor it and process endlessly over it emotionally.Soup (and stews, pottages, porridges, gruels, etc.) evolved according to local ingredients and tastes.New England chowder, Spanish gazpacho, Russian borscht, Italian minestrone, French onion, Chinese won ton and Campbell's tomato..all variations on the same theme.